Hello dear reader(s)!
Let’s start with a warning for those who freak out of over the concept of sex…
WARNING: This post talks about sex baby. It talks about you and me. It talks about all the good things and the bad things that can be. It talks about sex. It talks about sex. It talks about sex. It talks about sex.
That’s protected by parody laws, FYI.
If you’ve been reading this here blog-type-thing for any amount of time, I feel very bad for you. But that’s not the point here. If you have been reading this here blog-type-thing for any amount of time, you know that I am someone who is proudly sex-positive.
Being sex-positive, I view sex positively. It’s right there in the words. You’d know that if you paid attention in class. I think nothing is inherently wrong between consenting adults with full knowledge of everything involved.
What is really cool (besides me), is that in my spiritual path, sex is viewed positively. In fact, Beltaine is coming. And Beltaine, is a very sexual Sabbat. Sure it is the halfway point of the year, but in marking the changes that are taking place at that time, sex is certainly a huge a part of it all. The bees are pollinating. Taking away the flowers by taking their pollen and fertilizing the plants that will bear fruit. If that doesn’t bring sex to mind, then you are a far cleaner thinker than I and I feel bad for your partner(s).
In my path, you can even practice magick using sex, called…wait for it, sex magick. (I know, right? Who would’ve thought magick during sex would be called sex magick? That’s just totally unrelated!) Anyway, I am not going to go into the practice of sex magick. I am not an instruction manual, unless someone specific wanted a lesson, and called me “teacher”. Maybe just showed up one day, like today. And said, “Teacher, can you teach me sex magick, pleeeeeease?” Maybe then. Maybe. If she was lucky.
But you don’t have to practice sex magick or be pagan to know sex is a kind of magic in and of itself. (Notice the change to just magic, without the K. That was intentional. See, things can be magical but not magick. It’s an interesting distinction. Like a square is always a rectangle, but a rectangle isn’t always square. I am getting off topic here. Shapes get me all worked up. Mmmm. Quadrilaterals…..)
Sex bonds most people. (Better than duct tape, even.) It can keep connections strong. It can allow people to feel safe and comfortable. It can allow people to explore what is inside of themselves. (How did that get in there?!?!) It can lead to a deeper understanding of your partner(s) and yourself. (Nice and deep…) It can be an outlet for your deepest emotions and desires. (Butter pecan ice cream?!?)
And sex can hurt. If used improperly, it is capable of great harm. Sex is powerful, and must be treated with respect. “With great power, comes great responsibility.” – The rice guy.
Anything so powerful is magical.
In witchcraft, the acts you do, the spells you do, matter far less to the determination of whether it is light or dark magick than your intent. (Which isn’t to say that anything you do in the name of magick is acceptable. Like, no playing Nickelback during a spell or something equally horrific like live sacrifice.)
The same could be said for sex. The acts, while they can be wonderful, (very, very wonderful, if you’re with me, baby…), matter far less than your intent.
You don’t have to be a follower of my path or a believer in magic to know that sex is powerful. Even if you are a member of a more puritanical system of beliefs, you know that much of trying to control sex is based on the power it can have over someone. Or the power it can give them.
But it’s my opinion that there is nothing wrong with power if you use it properly. Whether it is magical power, sexual power, political power (can we please get someone to use that properly?), or any other kind of power.
Taking power over our lives, our bodies, and our desires is our right. It can lift us up and remind us that we are feeling, passionate human beings. It can remind us of what is within us that makes up a huge part of who we are. It can also make us feel really fucking good.
For as much as sex is shied away from in our society, it is important to remember that we are only here because of the magic of sex. Just because the sex you have isn’t intended to reproduce, it is not accident that in the right combination it is literally why we are here. Fortunately, not every type of sex or every sex act is intended to cause reproduction. The world is overpopulated enough as it is, and not everyone is intended to reproduce. That is magic.
Straight sex, gay sex, self sex, monogamous sex, poly sex… if it is something between consenting adults who are fully aware of the factors at play, you are feeling the magic. (If you are not totally selfish, your partner(s) is/are too.) If your intentions are good, rough sex, vanilla sex, whatever you like, is good, positive magic and you should be proud to be living a magical life.
I hope this season is very magical for all of you. 😉
I leave you with a little mood music.
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