Hello dear reader(s)!
One of the things that is an important part of my eclectic, solitary practitioning, somewhere between Wiccan and Druid spiritual path (in other words, “Whatever, I do what I want!”), is the concept that in order to make room in your life for new and good things, you must first let go of that which no longer serves you.
It’s a concept that isn’t exclusive to my path, or any Pagan path, but seems to take on more importance to those who are Pagan or Paganish. And in my path, it tends to work with the seasons.
Like clearing fallen leaves from the last couple of months, right around now has always (even before I really started paying attention to it), seemed like the right time to start letting go of that which does not serve me. As we get closer to Yule, it is best to have as much room for the abundance of the coming year. Again, you don’t have to be Pagan to want to clear stuff out around New Year’s, whatever calendar you are paying attention to. One of the things that really drew me to the path that I am on, however, is that when I was reading into it, learning it, and researching it, I definitely realized that a lot of it happens by default. Either I instinctively do those things, or the universe does them for me.
Take today for example…
Today, I once again became single. It was about the most mutual breakup I have ever had in my life. The entire conversation seemed to be two people wondering if they should just go ahead and call it. Now, I have nothing against this woman. The issues between us would have ordinarily been rather small, but the feel was obviously off for both of us. We just didn’t connect in that way, no matter how well we clicked and got along. I wish her all the happiness in the world. But the relationship wasn’t serving me, and it wasn’t serving her either, insofar as I could tell. And even though my intentions for today were to try to figure out if if I should end things or just give it more time, I basically had the question answered for me, by her obviously figuring out the same thing I did at roughly the same time.
So now, I have the room created for something better. By that, I mean a relationship that better serves me. Eventually. When I decide I want one. In the mean time, perhaps being single is something that serves me best right now. Who knows?
What I do know, is that despite being single for the holidays, and despite the fact that I no longer have someone in the area who will often go exploring this area with me, it was time to let that go. It just wasn’t serving me any longer. Maybe I can take this time to rest, try to figure out what is going on with my head, and get in a better place for later. Maybe I have been pushing too hard in my desire to get out and have things to do in this new city.
Despite yet another short-lived, failed relationship, I remain a hopeful romantic. I have the feeling that the person who will fit with my special list of desires, challenges, requirements, and other compatibility issues is closer in my future than I previously may have thought. If I held on to that which was no longer serving me, then I might not have left the room open for that which possibly will. I am happier with me alone, than I am with that which no longer serves me. So regardless of relationship status, I know that I am going to okay.
Is there anything that no longer serves you that you have recently let go of? Do you think that it is important to let go of some things, to make room for others? If not, do your neighbors complain about the smell of all the trash, you hoarder?