Sexually Active

Hello dear reader(s)!

Hello family!  If you are family (blood family), you may want to stop reading here.  Why?  Because I am going to be talking about sex.  And unfortunately, that means you will be having knowledge about the sex life of someone in your family and nobody wants that.  I don’t want to know what gets you off, and I can’t imagine you want to know what does for me, so you might want to go away now.  I love you, though.  This post just isn’t for you.

Okay, are they gone?  Good!  Let’s get dirty!

Also, if you are under 18 or 21 depending on your locality, you should probably go away.  Not that I am going to get crazy explicit, (the dirty thing was mostly a joke), but I have to cover my ass.  So don’t tell anyone that I didn’t tell you not to read further when you get caught.  

Okay, are they gone too?  Good!  Let’s get nasty!

Okay, not really.  I don’t want to make this a porn blog-type-thing (yet) because then I would have to charge and that means building a pay-wall, and having to report income generated, and that would be working, and would require actual work to be put into it which I am still pretty unable to do given the frequency of bad days still from all the cancer treatment damage.  Besides, my man-boobs are not quite supple enough to grace the internet yet.  However, since sex acts and lots of them are a few of my favorite things (way better than raindrops on roses), and I hate censoring, I do want to write about it.

Also, on a societal level, I think our failure to talk openly about sex leads to a lot of problems.  So are you ready?  Good!  Let’s get sexy!

23 years ago yesterday, I lost my virginity.  (Yes, I remember the date.)  I am one of the few people I know who does not regret my first time, and knows that the woman I was with doesn’t either.  Pretty cool stuff.  Of course, the sex wasn’t all that great, but it was special and I loved it.  And as time went along, I learned to do it better.  And then I loved it more.  The more sex I have, the more I want.  I am a greedy slut.

I noticed I have recently been followed by a few blogs that exist solely for kinky reasons.  And that’s awesome!  I am all for people expressing the many, many ways sex can be and how as long as it is between consenting adults, we shouldn’t judge.  I understand why they have followed.  I occasionally mention consensual non-consent and vague BDSM and D/s type themes.  I am sex-positive and have no issues with saying so.  The only worry I have, is that they will get bored.  I am not in any 24/7 lifestyle, and rarely go explicit, even in fiction.

Not that there is anything wrong with doing so.  In fact, if someone’s words can help someone find something within themselves to make their sex lives more enjoyable?  Describe your fucking in as much detail as you can.  As well, because of the old Puritanical influence that causes many people to lie about sex and what they like, it is good to occasionally throw your sex in somebody’s face to prevent someone from being marginalized because they buy a riding crop and nipple clamps.

I’m pretty kinky.  I have always felt that if someone likes what you are doing, or what they are doing to you, and you and your partner(s) are happy with it, then you should do what makes you happy.  There are things I like that some people don’t, and things some like that I wouldn’t ever want to try, but as long as it is between consenting adults, none of us should ever feel ashamed for it.  And none of us should ever have what we like legislated against us either.

If in 23 years my sex consisted solely of missionary, I would fucking hate sex.  And I don’t want to hate sex.  Sex is better (for me) than pretty much anything else with the exception of love.  Sex should be fun.  So why should I feel bad for having fun with sex?  When that not-so-discreet discreet package shows up at my door, why should I be ashamed?

Just the same as if sex isn’t fun for you.  Why should you feel bad for not wanting it?

Do I care that you can only get off if someone spreads butter on you and calls you their little butterball?  Nope.  Am I going to make fun of you because you have a thing for being whipped with banana peels?  Nope.  I might not want to play with you that way, but there is no judgment for you.  But if you force yourself on someone (for real) or try something with a life unable to consent, you are a piece of shit and should probably kill yourself.  Take one for the team.

In my fiction, I tend to write about women who are the aggressors.  If you are reading in and think this means I like to be dominated, well, you are half-right.  I like playing all the ways but dominant women are a little more rare and therefore more fun to write about.  Sometimes I don’t like to play at all.  Sometimes, I just want to make love to someone.  The point here, is to quit reading in.  I do enjoy sex.  I do like to play, but because I write about something, does not make it real.

I like to write.  I like to fuck.  Occasionally the two will collide.  23 years of activity and counting, and I simply do not give a shit if anyone has a problem with that.

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Author: Josh Wrenn

Cancer survivor, wanna-be artist, musician, author, and all around good guy.

62 thoughts on “Sexually Active”

  1. Oh, I pretty much inferred you like sex and were open to alternative activities. I did not read anything more out of it. I do think you have an obsession with man boobs as this is the second time in two days that you have mentioned them. 😉

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  2. Oh, and I’m certainly not worried about getting bored. Your writing is entertaining and covers a wide range of topics! I enjoy stepping out and reading about a vast array of subject matter…I just wear my nipple clams while doing so 😉

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  3. Okay, your post made me remember that 23 years, 2 months, 3 weeks and 19 days ago I had my first p-in-the-v encounter (because in our society we still regard that as losing our virginity, though thankfully that is morphing into reality), and if I remember correctly, his name was also Josh. No, it wasn’t you, unless you were working on Mackinac Island and you were about 5’6″ and stumbling drunk. 🙂 Cheers, Other Josh.

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      1. Lordy. I used to have debates with my friends all the time – they would say “Oral sex isn’t sex so it doesn’t count!” And I would say, “Okay, 1) Sex is in the title, and 2) there’s nothing more intimate than having someone’s junk in your face. Please.”

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    1. First, the porn site thing was a joke. But I still feel I must respond to your question. The answer is no. I fear no one and nothing. I hope for the best, but I do not fear the worst. Bad things happen, and I am well aware of that. I will not live in fear. Furthermore, the only sin in my beliefs is the intentional harming of another. If someone dares to hurt another because of what someone else does that does not affect them or them harm another, than that person is the sinner. Not me or anyone who would consume or produce something (the consensual, non-harmful kind) that someone else may object to.
      Let whatever God(s) is the true one sort that out in the afterlife. I am not afraid.


      1. Ok. You’re good to go.

        Let the clergy curse you all they can. This is how I phrase the First Commandment: You shall thank God who gave you life and set you free.

        If you’re not afraid of those who’re against freedom of expression, then you are an overall good company to have.

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  4. Haha!
    I appreciate your candor, because I cannot believe the number of people who uncomfortable reading things like, “I used all my energy for morning sex.” Really?!? THAT makes you uncomfortable?!? How do you even live?!? lol
    I dunno, I think it’s too big a part of life and motivation to skip over it entirely, whether it’s fact or fiction.
    Heaven forbid anyone is sexing.
    And why do people only assume about sex? I don’t see anyone asking mystery writers if that’s how they like to kill. It annoys me.
    Of course, I too enjoy sexing and writing.

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    1. On the mystery writers thing…RIGHT?!?!?! You nailed it there. I have written about killing people for not being a good friend! You would think if someone found something objectionable it would be that. If that can be fiction, why can’t the sex I write about? Truth is, many times I write about sex, it is because I WANT it, or remember it, not because I just had it! Who cares?!?!
      But yes, I am a very sexual person and anyone who doesn’t know that has never met me.

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  5. Totally agree!! If we weren’t so uptight, we’d have a lot more conversations about sex & life would be a lot better. We could talk about contraception & consent & it would be all wonderful. Plus, people would have a lot better sex! There would be less shame, for both genders, when saying “I like this, I don’t like that, that’s a maybe… that’s a hard no.”

    But, then again, I also think that unicorns could exist. 😉

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  6. All hail Dominant Women…if for no other reason than their fetish fashion sense! Most men won’t openly admit to being a crouching tiger, but they forget not to hide in plain sight. All men like sex…and why not. It’s the one activity that never gets old, is a stress-buster, and if done correctly actually has oddles of “be back soon” potential. Ah, and one more thing, in some cases might cure what ails ‘ya…in the moment anyways!

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  7. I personally think there’s a little freak in all of us. Granted, the extents vary but nonetheless, everyone has their freaky side and why not? Variety is the spice of life! The issue is, not enough people like to admit it which by 2016, it should be part of your resume LOL. Proud Freak in the Sheets here and the more often, the better!

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  8. Okay so ignoring my username being the ‘teenage girl’ I am not as young as people may think but yes my age does end with the word teen.

    But I am too into things that many people don’t really understand and that I keep entirely to myself. But reading your post has made me realise, I should not be ashamed. Girls like to have sex too, in many ways.

    Fancy checking out my blog? I would 10000% appreciate your feedback on any of my posts.

    Thank you!

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    1. This is one of the powerful posts I’ve ever read. A bigger percentage of people I have interacted with say they don’t like sex but if you bump into them on other forums, you realize everything about them is sexual.
      Sex is part of us and the loving it part just comes automatically. If it’s done right with a person one feels, then why not.
      The oral sex comment; I don’t really know when oral sex qualifies to be sex, or which part of oral becomes sex but the physical me needs this sweet p going in a dripping v for it to qualify to be sex.
      Old fashion, ha.

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  9. While I may very well be among those ‘living’ their particular kink, boredom would be the furthest thing from mind when reading any topic scripted by your hand. 🙂

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