Hello dear reader(s)!
Short post today, as I’m not really feeling all that great, because I slept lousy last night, and there are other things I should do before I crash. Last night, on some site, somewhere I saw a quote that basically said don’t worry about what people think about you, live your life how you want to.
Now we’ve all heard that before, and it sounds great and all, but it might be hard for some of us to really take it to heart because we face so much judgement and criticism for things that really should not bother other people.
And then it occurred to me…the very reason we should take it to heart is because we are going to get judged and criticized regardless of what we do. Some examples:
You are sex-positive, the puritans will call you a slut.
You are not as sexually active, the sexual will call you a prude.
You are gay, the homophobes will call you a sinner, or a fag.
You are straight, the militant gay will assume you are a “breeder” or are homophobic.
You are bi, people think you don’t exist.
You are trans, people think you are mentally ill.
You are mentally ill, people think you are faking it, or are evil.
You are evil…well, fuck you then. No apologies.
You are empathetic, people will claim you are too sensitive.
You are skinny, you’re anorexic.
You are fat, you’re lazy and ugly.
You are poor, you must be lazy.
You are rich, your parents must have been rich and you are also lazy.
You drink, you must be an alcoholic.
You don’t drink, you must be a goody-two-shoes.
You have kids, you must have given up your identity.
You don’t have kids, you must be heartless and hate kids.
You walk places, you must not be able to afford a car.
You drive, you must be lazy.
You are a cyclist, you must be an impotent wanna-be Lance Armstrong.
You don’t ride a bike, you must be lazy.
You view porn, you must be a pervert.
You don’t view porn, you must be a prude.
You do drugs, you must be a bad person.
You don’t do drugs, what are you, a chicken?
You read, you must be a nerd.
You don’t read, you must be stupid.
I could go on, but the simple truth is, no matter what your choice is, how you are, or how you choose to live your life; someone is going to decide that it is wrong. You are damned if you do, damned if you don’t. The world is going to judge you no matter what, so live your life the way you want to.